1 Peter 3:1-6 In the same way, you wives should yield to your husbands. Then, if some husbands do not obey God’s teaching, they will be persuaded to believe without anyone’s saying a word to them. They will be persuaded by the way their wives live. 2 Your husbands will see the pure lives you live with your respect for God. 3 It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. 4 No, your beauty should come from within you—the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that will never be destroyed and is very precious to God. 5 In this same way the holy women who lived long ago and followed God made themselves beautiful, yielding to their own husbands. 6 Sarah obeyed Abraham, her husband, and called him her master. And you women are true children of Sarah if you always do what is right and are not afraid.
Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” We are told in this world that beauty is the absence of flaws. Women strive to have the perfect body, the most fashionable clothing, the up and coming hairdo, and trendy (and sometimes excessive) makeup. But the Bible gives us a very different definition of beauty. It is the woman who fears and loves the Lord. Peter told the women that their beauty should come from a “gentle and quiet spirit”. I pondered the meaning of this phrase for many years, thinking I had to be a person who was quiet and gentle. I failed miserably at this because I have a very outgoing personality. But then I came across a definition in the Women’s Study Bible that made perfect sense to me. It said, “This quality is not a reference to genetically acquired personality traits, such as being a person of few words, but rather to an inner attitude marked by the absence of anxiety, coupled with a trust in God as the blessed controller of all things”. It is the quiet faith of a woman, trusting God for ALL THINGS, that makes her beautiful. Now, the Bible also gives us examples of women whose “ugly” behavior cancels out their beauty. For instance, Proverbs 11:22- “A beautiful woman without good sense is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.” Her lack of good sense cancels out her beauty, just as the beauty of a gold ring is wasted by being placed in a pig’s snout.
1 Timothy 2:9-10 says, “women should adorn themselves with proper conduct, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hairstyles and gold ornaments, or pearls, or expensive clothes, 10 but rather, as befits women who profess reverence for God, with good deeds.” What we find to be symbols of beauty in this world are wasted on the women of God. Our beauty is found in our behavior, our conduct, our lifestyle, and our attitude. The Women’s Study Bible says, “A woman’s actions and attitudes are often an indication of where her roots are planted. When a woman’s heart is rooted in peace and joy (Gal. 5:22, 23), her outward countenance radiates vitality, enthusiasm, love, and a deep sense of well-being—something no amount of make-up, perfume, professional styling, high fashion, or personal fitness program can create. Having the Holy Spirit within empowers a woman with vitality and enthusiasm, making her a magnet to other people.”
Beauty is not a small issue. It has much to do with our complete well-being. Are you taking care of your time and relationship with God? It is the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, our love and commitment to God, and our faith and hope in Jesus Christ that is at the root of our beauty. I pray that each and every woman of God is able to look in the mirror today and ask God what HE sees. It is HIS standard of beauty we are striving for, not the world’s.
God bless you. And may you all become beautiful women in God’s eyes.